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The Most Powerful Habit You Can Imagine 2013-10-29 19:34:23


这是我以前一位同事贴在她Linkedin的网页上的。我看过以后,觉得真的很受启发。 在生活和工作中,

真的归根结底就是这一句话:


帮助她(他)


如果能做到这点,那么,如文章所言,你也会有美好的生活和未来。

文章如下。希望你也喜欢而且得到启发。


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The Most Powerful Habit You Can Imagine

By Bruce Kasanoff


Last year, I set out to come up with a single sentence that could guide both

my career and personal decisions. It turned out to be, Be generous and expert,

trustworthy and clear, open-minded and adaptable, persistent and present."


Only after months of living by these words did I realize that all these elements

came down to a single powerful habit, which is to start every interaction by

thinking: help this person. Let me explain...


Generous means to start every personal interaction with three words in

your head: help this person. When you answer the phone, when someone

knocks on your door, when you get introduced to a new colleague, your first

instinct should be to help that person. Yesterday I was driving my 14-year-old

son back from a school event and I made an observation about the event that

wasn't entirely positive. His response was, "How is that helping this person?"


That quick exchange taught me two things. It's not enough to say you are

generous, you actually have to work hard every day to live that way. I'm trying

hard, but it is challenging, I admit. But more importantly, I learned that my son

now has these words in the front of his mind, and that is a very good thing.


Expert means to be talented enough in certain areas that you can help others

in a meaningful manner. This is where many people completely miss the mark.

The main reason to become a expert is not so you can make more money;

this attitude will limit your potential. The main reason is so you can help more

people, more often.


Trustworthy means to be someone others turn to both in times of need

and of opportunity. In such moments, other people are especially vulnerable

and they need to know you will not only respect their confidentiality but also

deliver on your promises.


Clear means that you fully understand your role is to be someone who

helps with a purpose. You aren't just a Good Samaritan; although your first

thought is to help others, you also have a set of goals to achieve for yourself,

your family and your organization. You make it easy for others to understand

these goals. In this way, you will have the time to help others and still be able

to accomplish what you need to do.


Here's a really tough one: open-minded means that you are willing to help

people you initially might find unworthy of help. Yesterday at an event, a

woman pushed right past my colleague and I - who were patiently waiting

to talk with the host - to capture his attention. At first, my thoughts about

her weren't too kind, but as we again waited our turn, it dawned on me that

her behavior was perhaps generated by anxiety or a pressing need, and that

she was probably in such a state of tunnelvision that it never even dawned

on her that we were waiting. People in this state are the ones who need

help the most.


Adaptable means that you are not just a helpful person with a hammer,

trying to pound everything into better shape. When one approach doesn't

work, you are willing to try others. Don't just tell someone, "Here's what I'd

do in this situation." Think hard about the best strategy for helping them,

given their personality, preferences and position.


Persistent means to be serious about helping others, and not just superficial.

I'm not simply suggesting you start holding the door open for more people;

I'm suggesting you become a force who helps other people in a substantive

way. The people who need help the most won't be helped by a ten-second gesture.


Present means to pay attention to the people around you so that you can

spot those who are struggling, confused or uncertain. Most of us try to put

on a good face, and you need to see past the superficial layer of daily life.


ADD ALL THIS UP, and you become the type of person others love to have

around them. You become someone who listens, who is genuinely interested

in others, who is capable and dependable. Who you are - and how you approach

the world - will change.


And now comes the personal payoff: you will be dramatically more capable of

achieving your own purpose.


If you can remember and live by this sentence, you can achieve anything

you set your mind to do Anything. Be generous and expert, trustworthy

and clear, open-minded and adaptable, persistent and Present."

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download my free guides at Kasanoff.com, or read my book with Michael Hinshaw

Smart Customers, Stupid Companies. On Twitter, I'm @NowPossible.

Image credit: theleticiabertin/Flickr.



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