今天和朋友讨论单身问题，我说There are people who choose to be single, and those who have no other option than to choose  to be single. 一种是傲气:I could if I would ( 只要我愿意就能结)。另一种是懊气，I would if I could (我若能结我为什么不结)。我们不可一概埋怨年轻人不结婚。对自帶光环的单身要劝，对万念俱灰的要连帮帶劝。