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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-27 07:44:05 |
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我曾在学校带过课, 经过学校性骚扰培训.后来也经过公司性骚扰培训. 老师约会自己的学生, 或上级约会直节的下级, 都会引起性骚扰的法律控告.因为对方处在一个非常POWERFUL的位置. 小静的思维也说明了: 老板决定着你的工作,提升等等. 对别的员工,学生来说, 小静和/或卫可能受到了特别的待遇, 对别的员工学生就有不公平的待遇. 在你的小说里, 小静, 卫或他们组里任何学生或员工都可以控告学校和/或该教授性骚扰.而且此案例学校和该教授必LOSS无疑. 这就是为什么在小静与该教授约会时, 该教授说他的事业会全完了. 律师们会争着免费(赢后再收费)帮他们做此案,因为这是一个必赢的案子. 很可惜,初来的学生, 象卫一样, 处处害怕, 受了欺负, 还觉得自己没理, 到处抱歉. 郑卫好象有些低沉,大多数中国学生都或多或少经历过类似的时刻.就别说做学生的艰苦时代了. 工作以后也会遇到比如被裁掉, 被排挤,降级等.这时候, 大多数人能坚强地继续奋斗, GET OVER, 回到正常的工作,生活. 但挣扎地时间可能长可能短. 这时候他/她们需要家人,朋友的理解,鼓励与支持. 而不是抛弃, 背叛. 你如果抛弃, 背叛 结果与落井下石是一样的. 我认识的多数学生在家人,朋友大力支持下都顺利完成学业, 或做教授,或去公司工作. 这就是为什么有人说每一个成功的男人后面有一个SOME KIND OF女人. 也同样适用于成功的女人. 象小静这样的人在美留学人中也有一些.祝巴特曼好运,若小静与他走在一起后, 又遇到比她丈夫好的人, 小静就会毫不犹豫地离开巴特曼. 他那时就会理解郑卫的感觉. 有一个特别有名的女留学生的故事是众所周知的. 除非你有几十亿美元,否则不要娶小静这样"水性扬花"(NOT EXACTLY)多情善变的人. 或不要太投入, 太认真了, ENJOY几天是几天. 小静根本不DESERVE郑卫的爱.
告诫现正在努力奋斗的留学生, 如果你的SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT ONE不能在你需要支持的时候STAY WITH你, 他/她就不合格做你的SPOUSE, 根本就不是一条心. 不要怀有侥幸心理, 应该立即快刀斩乱麻. 远离他/她. 有可能的话, 尽快遣送他/她回国, 否则, 他/她只能对你的工作学习起到极不利的影响, 等他/她拍你一砖的时候, MENTALLY会送你下地狱. YOU ARE GONNA CRY AND SUFFER A LOT. |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 18:15:44 |
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答luming和hometown:
谢谢你们的热情评论。其实是郑卫太不争气杨小静才跑的,要是郑卫能拿到博士,杨小静何苦嫁一个老头,她又不傻。
怀孕之事没有杨小静配合也不容易,再说怀上了她还可以打掉。 |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 18:14:35 |
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答luming:
谢谢你的热情评论。其实是郑卫太不争气杨小静才跑的,要是郑卫能拿到博士,杨小静何苦嫁一个老头,她又不傻。
怀孕之事没有杨小静配合也不容易,再说怀上了她还可以打掉。 |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 18:09:58 |
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答Vincent99:
谢谢你的积极讨论。请看前一节我的回贴。写这么长真不容易,再次感谢。
你的故事进程很有趣,不过当时的实际情况并不是这样。真实的生活往往并不离奇。
现在郑卫要告吉姆几乎不可能,因为他没有抓到对方任何把柄。你跟妻子闹矛盾了,他帮忙送了一个你妻子就是性骚扰吗?
还有对美国法律的认识,其实这里面可以钻的空子极多,而且只要没有人告或者告状的人请不起好律师,谁也拿他们没有办法。 |
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作者:hometown |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 13:44:07 |
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郑卫的错误是没有及时让小静怀孕当他知道小静行止不当后。生孩子比3万元的工作意义大多了。 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 09:32:04 |
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Xiaojing (and her family) dumped her first BF, and got a better one in Wei. Wei can bring her to US. She thinks that the professor can bring her to the next level. Unofrunatley with the three having the boss, student and employee relationships, the professor is playing with fire. If Xiojing leaves Wei for another professor, that would be perfect for her. But sometime life is just playing fool with us. And I don't think the professor will let her go. |
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作者:luming |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 09:04:18 |
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从还没有结婚,郑卫就听任杨家的摆布:办什么出国。男怕入错行女怕嫁错郎,出国、生物专业都不适合卫,卫也不适合静,如果她们家这么想出国,应该找学习上更上进的,所以这段婚姻从一开始就是一个错误。娟与卫倒是很搭配,比较互补的婚姻容易维系长久。 我总在想一个问题就是如果卫在学业上并没有出现问题,顺利拿到博士,静与老板的婚外恋就不会发生了吗?不过美国老头一般好像比较喜欢邓文迪那样的。 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 08:39:34 |
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Sorry, the story seems occured in Princeton instead of Yale. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 08:28:41 |
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Even if Xiaojing is an adult, Wei maybe able to file a missing person report with police. An immigratant needs to tell INS their new residence whenever they move. Xiaojing should do that as well, otherwise she may have violated the law. They divorce, Xiaojing need her legal status, she married the professor right away to be legal in US. Just don't kow how the professor is gonna survive this. The school like Yale will not let this happen and does nothing. The professor is likely gonna lose his job, and together with the school will get hit with bunch of law suits. The famous professor's lawsuit is gonna get plenty of media attention. This is US, not China. The professor's career will no doubt go down the drain. Don't know what happened to the real characters in life. The professor is making a big, fatal mistake. He is in big trouble and he dragged Xiaojing down with him. What a selfish and not smart move. He is gonna ruin his life, same time deceived, cheated the young innocent girl into believing a much better future for her. What a sad trategy for all party involved. |
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作者:luming |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 08:01:38 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 07:23:47 |
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Another scenario is, somebody reported Xiaojing worked illegally and she gets deported back to China. The professor is really in love with her and moved to China to be with her, get a professor position in China. Xiaojing lived a good life, but not for long. The professor find multiple true love with his new students, and dump Xiaojing. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 07:00:30 |
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Maybe after Wei refused, Xiaojing fell into a trap into a high profile prostitute ring and then start selling herself to high profile folks, and gets AIDS and died in hospital. Wei appreciated his new love with Juan, became a professor himself, donated his lawsuit reward to foundation and even attended Xiaojing's funeral together with Xiaojing's parents. I think most readers would like to see something like that to happen rather than Wei not successful. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言时间:2011-07-26 06:50:52 |
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I liked your novel until recently. Looks like the whole theme is that why the extramarital affair act of Xiaojing is justified on the ground of TRUE love, and may be she would live happyilly after. As a matter of fact, she has been dating his husband's boss, who hired her because he wanted her at the begining. The professor is like a dictator who put his eyes on his subordinate's wife. This kind of things will never be justified in a good perosn's mind. Legally, the university and the professor are in trouble. Poor Wei did not even realize that this is a case of sexual harassment in school and in industry. Karma is believed by many people! I hope Wei gets some friends who know the law (IF the real Wei in life sees my post, please seek legal help, find a good lawer, a lot of lawyers would love to help you on that, because they will make good money as well). After the lawsuit, Wei gets $20m. The professor lost his job and could not get a job due to the lawsuit. He bankrupted and became a homeless begger on the streets. Lets' see whether Xiaojing still has the true love with the same person only with greatly reduced assets. Obviously a girl like her will not stick around with the professor who now can not provide a better life for her, thus TRUE love no more. She will give the old man $20 grand and a good writtent bye bye letter. She tried to go back to Wei, Wei already married Juan, living a happy life and refused. Xiaojing then went crazy and becomes mentaly ill and was sent to hospital and stayed there for the rest of her life, may be even killed herself in the hospital. Anyway, your describition of Wei is not a good representation of the lives of our Chinese students and their families in US. Majority of the students (especially who came around your time) are successfully able to finish their study, even though they may go through the tough process like Wei is currently going through. |
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