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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-27 07:44:05 |
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我曾在學校帶過課, 經過學校性騷擾培訓.後來也經過公司性騷擾培訓. 老師約會自己的學生, 或上級約會直節的下級, 都會引起性騷擾的法律控告.因為對方處在一個非常POWERFUL的位置. 小靜的思維也說明了: 老闆決定着你的工作,提升等等. 對別的員工,學生來說, 小靜和/或衛可能受到了特別的待遇, 對別的員工學生就有不公平的待遇. 在你的小說里, 小靜, 衛或他們組裡任何學生或員工都可以控告學校和/或該教授性騷擾.而且此案例學校和該教授必LOSS無疑. 這就是為什麼在小靜與該教授約會時, 該教授說他的事業會全完了. 律師們會爭着免費(贏後再收費)幫他們做此案,因為這是一個必贏的案子. 很可惜,初來的學生, 象衛一樣, 處處害怕, 受了欺負, 還覺得自己沒理, 到處抱歉. 鄭衛好象有些低沉,大多數中國學生都或多或少經歷過類似的時刻.就別說做學生的艱苦時代了. 工作以後也會遇到比如被裁掉, 被排擠,降級等.這時候, 大多數人能堅強地繼續奮鬥, GET OVER, 回到正常的工作,生活. 但掙扎地時間可能長可能短. 這時候他/她們需要家人,朋友的理解,鼓勵與支持. 而不是拋棄, 背叛. 你如果拋棄, 背叛 結果與落井下石是一樣的. 我認識的多數學生在家人,朋友大力支持下都順利完成學業, 或做教授,或去公司工作. 這就是為什麼有人說每一個成功的男人後面有一個SOME KIND OF女人. 也同樣適用於成功的女人. 象小靜這樣的人在美留學人中也有一些.祝巴特曼好運,若小靜與他走在一起後, 又遇到比她丈夫好的人, 小靜就會毫不猶豫地離開巴特曼. 他那時就會理解鄭衛的感覺. 有一個特別有名的女留學生的故事是眾所周知的. 除非你有幾十億美元,否則不要娶小靜這樣"水性揚花"(NOT EXACTLY)多情善變的人. 或不要太投入, 太認真了, ENJOY幾天是幾天. 小靜根本不DESERVE鄭衛的愛.
告誡現正在努力奮鬥的留學生, 如果你的SPOUSE/SIGNIFICANT ONE不能在你需要支持的時候STAY WITH你, 他/她就不合格做你的SPOUSE, 根本就不是一條心. 不要懷有僥倖心理, 應該立即快刀斬亂麻. 遠離他/她. 有可能的話, 儘快遣送他/她回國, 否則, 他/她只能對你的工作學習起到極不利的影響, 等他/她拍你一磚的時候, MENTALLY會送你下地獄. YOU ARE GONNA CRY AND SUFFER A LOT. |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 18:15:44 |
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答luming和hometown:
謝謝你們的熱情評論。其實是鄭衛太不爭氣楊小靜才跑的,要是鄭衛能拿到博士,楊小靜何苦嫁一個老頭,她又不傻。
懷孕之事沒有楊小靜配合也不容易,再說懷上了她還可以打掉。 |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 18:14:35 |
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答luming:
謝謝你的熱情評論。其實是鄭衛太不爭氣楊小靜才跑的,要是鄭衛能拿到博士,楊小靜何苦嫁一個老頭,她又不傻。
懷孕之事沒有楊小靜配合也不容易,再說懷上了她還可以打掉。 |
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作者:海攀 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 18:09:58 |
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答Vincent99:
謝謝你的積極討論。請看前一節我的回貼。寫這麼長真不容易,再次感謝。
你的故事進程很有趣,不過當時的實際情況並不是這樣。真實的生活往往並不離奇。
現在鄭衛要告吉姆幾乎不可能,因為他沒有抓到對方任何把柄。你跟妻子鬧矛盾了,他幫忙送了一個你妻子就是性騷擾嗎?
還有對美國法律的認識,其實這裡面可以鑽的空子極多,而且只要沒有人告或者告狀的人請不起好律師,誰也拿他們沒有辦法。 |
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作者:hometown |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 13:44:07 |
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鄭衛的錯誤是沒有及時讓小靜懷孕當他知道小靜行止不當後。生孩子比3萬元的工作意義大多了。 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 09:32:04 |
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Xiaojing (and her family) dumped her first BF, and got a better one in Wei. Wei can bring her to US. She thinks that the professor can bring her to the next level. Unofrunatley with the three having the boss, student and employee relationships, the professor is playing with fire. If Xiojing leaves Wei for another professor, that would be perfect for her. But sometime life is just playing fool with us. And I don't think the professor will let her go. |
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作者:luming |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 09:04:18 |
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從還沒有結婚,鄭衛就聽任楊家的擺布:辦什麼出國。男怕入錯行女怕嫁錯郎,出國、生物專業都不適合衛,衛也不適合靜,如果她們家這麼想出國,應該找學習上更上進的,所以這段婚姻從一開始就是一個錯誤。娟與衛倒是很搭配,比較互補的婚姻容易維繫長久。 我總在想一個問題就是如果衛在學業上並沒有出現問題,順利拿到博士,靜與老闆的婚外戀就不會發生了嗎?不過美國老頭一般好像比較喜歡鄧文迪那樣的。 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 08:39:34 |
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Sorry, the story seems occured in Princeton instead of Yale. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 08:28:41 |
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Even if Xiaojing is an adult, Wei maybe able to file a missing person report with police. An immigratant needs to tell INS their new residence whenever they move. Xiaojing should do that as well, otherwise she may have violated the law. They divorce, Xiaojing need her legal status, she married the professor right away to be legal in US. Just don't kow how the professor is gonna survive this. The school like Yale will not let this happen and does nothing. The professor is likely gonna lose his job, and together with the school will get hit with bunch of law suits. The famous professor's lawsuit is gonna get plenty of media attention. This is US, not China. The professor's career will no doubt go down the drain. Don't know what happened to the real characters in life. The professor is making a big, fatal mistake. He is in big trouble and he dragged Xiaojing down with him. What a selfish and not smart move. He is gonna ruin his life, same time deceived, cheated the young innocent girl into believing a much better future for her. What a sad trategy for all party involved. |
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作者:luming |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 08:01:38 |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 07:23:47 |
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Another scenario is, somebody reported Xiaojing worked illegally and she gets deported back to China. The professor is really in love with her and moved to China to be with her, get a professor position in China. Xiaojing lived a good life, but not for long. The professor find multiple true love with his new students, and dump Xiaojing. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 07:00:30 |
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Maybe after Wei refused, Xiaojing fell into a trap into a high profile prostitute ring and then start selling herself to high profile folks, and gets AIDS and died in hospital. Wei appreciated his new love with Juan, became a professor himself, donated his lawsuit reward to foundation and even attended Xiaojing's funeral together with Xiaojing's parents. I think most readers would like to see something like that to happen rather than Wei not successful. |
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作者:Vincent99 |
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留言時間:2011-07-26 06:50:52 |
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I liked your novel until recently. Looks like the whole theme is that why the extramarital affair act of Xiaojing is justified on the ground of TRUE love, and may be she would live happyilly after. As a matter of fact, she has been dating his husband's boss, who hired her because he wanted her at the begining. The professor is like a dictator who put his eyes on his subordinate's wife. This kind of things will never be justified in a good perosn's mind. Legally, the university and the professor are in trouble. Poor Wei did not even realize that this is a case of sexual harassment in school and in industry. Karma is believed by many people! I hope Wei gets some friends who know the law (IF the real Wei in life sees my post, please seek legal help, find a good lawer, a lot of lawyers would love to help you on that, because they will make good money as well). After the lawsuit, Wei gets $20m. The professor lost his job and could not get a job due to the lawsuit. He bankrupted and became a homeless begger on the streets. Lets' see whether Xiaojing still has the true love with the same person only with greatly reduced assets. Obviously a girl like her will not stick around with the professor who now can not provide a better life for her, thus TRUE love no more. She will give the old man $20 grand and a good writtent bye bye letter. She tried to go back to Wei, Wei already married Juan, living a happy life and refused. Xiaojing then went crazy and becomes mentaly ill and was sent to hospital and stayed there for the rest of her life, may be even killed herself in the hospital. Anyway, your describition of Wei is not a good representation of the lives of our Chinese students and their families in US. Majority of the students (especially who came around your time) are successfully able to finish their study, even though they may go through the tough process like Wei is currently going through. |
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