How to Turn Your Good Boyfriend into Husband
There must be many girls (or boys) out there trying very hard to find husbands
(or wives) in this world. Therefore, it might be helpful to them for people who
have experienced the similar processes to share their ideas, methods, or tricks
on how to turn their good boyfriends into husbands. Here, I like to present ten
methods or tricks to girls on how to turn a good boyfriend into husband.
(1) Be
honest
The honesty or
the trust should be the most important factor in determining whether a girl
should turn her boyfriend into her husband because marriage is a lifetime
commitment made to each other between a man and a woman. Though it is often the
love or the attraction between the opposite sex that brings a boy and a girl
together to become close friends, the basic building blocks of marriage are not
the love but the honesty or the mutual trust. Once a man and a woman get
married, they should keep their trust and the commitment for the rest of their
life.
(2) Be polite
Boys and girls
are inherently different: men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Boys are
supposed to be strong, both physically and mentally, and take greater
responsibility in important matters. On the other hand, girls are supposed to
be polite or behave graciously, especially in public or in company with boys.
Men are born to be leaders and like to be in control. Therefore, a polite or a
gracious girl will much more be loved or asked for getting married by her
boyfriend.
(3) Be
encouraging
Both men and women have their personal dreams when they are young. However,
when the two get married, either one or both of them may have to give up part
or all of their dreams as a result of family responsibility and social
obligation. A man generally takes a huge family responsibility with an
intensive social pressure and he may be more afraid that an earlier marriage
would prevent from or postpone the realization of his dream. Therefore, a
constant encouragement from a girl with a promise, willingness, or an action to
assist the boy realizing his dream will certainly help the boy to ask the girl
to marry him in the earliest possible time.
(4) Tell his mother something about you but not everything
Marriage involves
not only two people but also two families. A boy will be more willing to ask a
girl to marry him if his family has already accepted the girl. Therefore, it is
certainly helpful for a girl to establish communications with her boyfriend’s
family by talking to his mother or other family members such as his sisters, if
any, in an early stage or on a regular basis. However, because of the rapid
changes of the society and usual generation gap, his mother may not agree with
or may not like what a typical young girl’s thoughts or actions in the current
world. Here, telling his mother something but not everything means to have an
effective communication with her boyfriend’s mother in a good and decent
manner.
(5) Exercise together
Doing physical exercise or doing it regularly is an important component of
daily activities to keep one’s body fit and healthy. Many girls like to spend
precious times with their boyfriends on doing all-day shopping and vacation
traveling, etc. Every man or woman knows the fact that it is a waste of man’s
time to ask him to follow a lady all-day long in various department stores for
(window) shopping most of the time. Vacation traveling together is good but is rare
and expensive. On the other hand, doing exercise or sport activities together,
especially on a regular basis, may better serve the purpose of bringing their
relationship closer because of the frequent close communications between the
two in addition to producing the fitted and healthy bodies to both of them.
(6) Do not make idle threats.
Men are from Mars so they are often rational and women are from Venus so they
are often emotional. Because of the inherent differences between men and women
on their personalities, some sort of conflicts is unavoidable in their daily
lives. This is especially true when both men and women are very good and they
often have their independent opinions on various matters. Different opinions
may lead to arguments, which may in turn lead to quarrels or discussions. Well,
of course, frank discussions are much better because those discussions will
certainly increase the mutual understanding between the two people. However,
under no circumstance should one, this “one” often happening to be an emotional
woman, make idle threats of cutting off or terminating the relationship between
the two in those arguments or quarrels. Do not make such a threat, period. If
you do, the consequence will always be very serious. You may either deeply hurt
your boyfriend’s feeling for a long time or push your boyfriend to a point where
he will not be able to return.
(7) When conflict arises, talk to your boyfriend first before approach a
friend
Your good boyfriend is supposed to be your best friend, your closest friend and
your most trustworthy friend. Naturally, you need to talk to your boyfriend
first when conflict arises. You talk to him patiently until you both find a
good solution to resolve the conflict. In the process of talking, quarreling
and arguing, you may get somewhat angry. You are angry because your boyfriend
simply cannot understand your point view and especially, unlike several cases
that happened previously, you think this time you are really very reasonable
and logical. You are still angry at your boyfriend and what can you do? You do
this: you close your eyes and count to ten, then give your boyfriend a big hug.
And then continue talking to him in a patient and gentle manner. After all
these fail, you may approach a close friend for a different opinion on the
matter.
(8) Write him a love letter or a love poem, with pen
I know now it is the internet and high-tech age and nobody cares to write
letters with pen anymore. However, write him a love letter or a love poem with pen,
though an old fashion to express your love feeling is still a very effective
way to grasp your boyfriend’s heart. You write your love letter with your pen
and your heart, not with your computer or ipad. You should seriously copy your
love letter from a draft version and try not to make mistakes (e.g., noticing
the difference between “diary” and “dairy”, the difference between 愛 and 受, etc). You may
mail him the letter or put the letter in his pocket.
You do not have to use the word “love” explicitly in your love letter. You may
describe your love feeling toward him by a slight exaggeration since love
relationship between two people has never been an exact science. Here, let me
show an example about exaggeration by two versions of writing describing the
same love feeling. The slightly exaggerated version is: (1) “Darling, my
darling, we have been together climbing all the high mountains, crossing many
torrential rivers, and overcoming all the difficulties. I strongly believe that
it is now a good time for us to start a new page of our relationship. I am
waiting for your call and I am waiting for the happiest and most important moment
of my life”. The plain and the simple version is: (2) “Hi, we have been
together doing all-day shopping many times and I want to marry you.” Obviously,
the first description, where the word “shopping” or “marry” never appeared, is
much more exquisite, heartfelt, and sensational than the second one and is
therefore highly recommended.
(9) Show your care to your boyfriend by some daily trivial things
Not every nice girl is able to follow all the suggestions provided above. For
example, I made this suggestion above: “Write him a love letter or a love poem,
with pen”. Well, this might be a very difficult task to some girls. I am not
sure whether a good graduate majoring in literature with a master or a doctoral
degree is able to write a love letter to make her boyfriend “魂飘断肠” so that he will be able to ask his
girlfriend marry him right away. At the same time, any girl is able to show her
care and appreciation to her good boyfriend by some daily trivial things,
which, in a long run, may effectively move her boyfriend in a right direction.
Here, let me list a few examples of trivial things that every girl is able to
do:
(i) When you go for your own window shopping or clothes shopping, buy him
something to show him that you are constantly thinking of him even when you are
purely doing something for yourself. You do not have to buy expensive things
under these circumstances. You may only need to buy a tie or a pair of socks,
just reminding him that you are thinking of him all the time.
(ii) Learn how to tie man’s tie and show the skill to him. Ladies usually only
wear skirts but not wear ties. You learn how to tie man’s tie solely for the
purpose of caring your boyfriend. You actually tie his tie to show that you
care him.
(iii) Feed him the food. He might be busy with thinking of his project, playing
his computer, etc. at a normal lunch or dinner time when he is supposed to be
hungry --- you feed him the food to save his time to show your support. He is
not busy at all and you guys are having lunch or dinner together --- you feed
him the food to make you look really very charming in his eyes.
(iv) ..............
(10) Do not always be late and please call if you think you are going to
be late
It is not unusual for an average girl to be late to an appointment with her
boyfriend, to be late to her work place, or to be late in a vacation travel.
Apparently, girls can always find some excuses to explain why they are late
whereas, in fact, I think the true reason of their being late is often the
underestimate of their make-up times before they leave. Therefore, please
reserve enough time for your make-up and be seriously aware that the number of
your late arrivals to your boyfriend’s appointments is inversely proportional
to the number of the gifts your boyfriend will give to you. The scientific
reason behind such a relationship is due to the fact that the number of the
gifts your boyfriend plans to buy for you is directly proportional to the
degree of his happiness. He will be less happy if you are always late. At a
certain stage when your boyfriend thinks that he has already bought enough
gifts for you, then one day he will most likely say the following to you:
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Darling, my sweetheart, I've always believed in numbers; and the equations and
logics that lead to reason. But after a lifetime of such pursuits, I ask, “What
truly is logic? Who decides reason?” My quest has taken me through the
physical, the metaphysical, the delusional -- and back. And I have made the
most important discovery of my career, the most important discovery of my life:
It is only in the mysterious equations of love that any logic or reasons can be
found. I'm only here tonight because of you. You are the reason I am. You are
all my reasons. Darling, would you marry me?
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Please carefully read this last trick one more time and think about the entire
logic between “late” and “marry”.
In conclusion, I
have presented the following ten methods or tricks on “How to Turn Your Good
Boyfriend into Husband”:
(1) Be honest
(2) Be polite
(3) Be encouraging
(4) Tell his mother
something about you but not everything
(5) Exercise
together
(6) Do not make idle
threats
(7) When conflict
arises, talk to your boyfriend first before approach a friend
(8) Write him a love
letter or a love poem, in pen
(9) Show your care
to your boyfriend by some daily trivial things
(10) Do not always
be late and please call if you think you are going to be late
There is a saying in marshal art that says “you will always defeat your enemy
if you know a special trick (一招鲜，吃遍天)”. There is also a well-known saying in science that says “if you
know three tricks of math, physics and chemistry, you can freely travel in the
science world (学会数理化，走遍天下都不怕).” I am quite sure that these ten tricks
should be more than enough for girls and ladies to pick and choose to help to
realize their dreams of finding good husbands.
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