| Many years ago, my friend’s daughter was only 4 years old. He told me, the meaning of “father” was “friend”.
Parents - children relation is friend. This way they are willing to talk to you, to tell you what their real idea and feeling is. I like the TV series \"Gilmore Girls\", mother daughter are friends.
When I had my own daughter, I try to be her friend too. We always have “girl talk”, talk about anything that girl is interested: friends, school, fashion, movie, songs, music, … In this way, I know what happened to her, what kind of friends she has, how she think of staff, what she like and why, how she deal with difficulty. I always lay on the bed with her, or snuggle in the sofa together. I am really enjoy talking with her. Last night, we just had a \"girl talk\", we talked about the birthday party she proposed.
(Parents also need to be aware that the size difference between the kids and us. When talking with them it may be necessary to stoop down to their level or to sit with them. That shows fair and friendly.) |