“Have you taken any tour to Khan El Khalili Bazaar on 2/20/09? I was supposed to be there if not for my illness in Feb. " 我问这个刚刚大学毕业的本地导游-矣矣
"Yes, I was there with the other 2 groups. One bomb was just blasted on the chair and the other one was right underneath. And I took the 4 people out of the crowds." 矣矣回答 " I am not afraid of any bombs. I know what they have, what they want and what they think." 他继续说。矣矣是主修德文的年轻人，这个工作是他第一分工，（还不够三个月呢！）
" It is not right! Only someone who intends to attack would feel that way." 我原始反应的说着。
"Will the USA attack Egypt? Will Obama bring his military to Egypt just like Iraq? What do you think about Obama " 矣矣犹疑的问;
" I doubted that he would do it. His birth father was from Africa, this was his other home land! It is unlikely that he would agree to do that. Obama does not have leadership charisma; he is more prone to be a follower instead. His good speech always without substance and I would say he is a good organizer to "repack" America. His charm personality gains more support than his political position. 这时，我是豁然开朗，明白他说“攻击“的话中话!后来我们的话题又被"景色“中断；没有继续下去！
他说：when I was in my 2nd year in college, some groups of people came to recruit me to work for them because I had marine training background, they had many bombs and they want to train me to be bomb expert. They have bombs and they need money to maintain their set up and they do not like American. They target on youngsters who dislike communication ..."
心想， 怪不得脑袋搬家的事都是让这些人去干！ 我马上插咀说：“they are terrorists and you will lose your life"
矣矣很不高兴的说：they are not terrorists, America is a country of terrorism and always set up wars to rob our people. Our civilization from Pharaohs is more in accepting differences and we compromise with evil deeds. We do not like the American democracy!
矣矣继续说：they plan to send trainees to our tourist industry and set up bombs...
心里想， 不能冲着这小子去”评理“， 明知他们的行为是对准美国所有的老佰姓；我们每个美国公民， 都可能成为下一个的受害人；而不是那班政客权威人士。 所以我把话题转到他个人自身上：How would you like your present living?
矣矣说： I feel myself getting very old especially in the morning when I look at myself in the mirror, there is no hope and no future..."
就是这个话题，我抓着这个关键借题发挥，（就像背水一战，拿着非赢不可的心态） 把话匣子打开：you feel old because you cannot find your life passion; there is nothing really that arouses your interest,you have no mission at all. You do not know where you stand and where you are at; thus there is no grab on yourself for any future.
矣矣马上问我他应该怎样做？他对我的话有着期待。 我说”you should ask yourself what you are and what you have. There is a difference between what you are and what you have. Once you have your answer, you should lay down all the answers on a piece of paper and reorganize yourself. You don't need to be anyone but yourself. Then you will see a clear image of yourself in the mirror.
这时，我对矣矣说：why did she have everything covered up except her eyes? Is it her religion requirement? Won't people feel scared to talk to her?
矣矣回答" It is her religion and her husband。 She cannot talk to any stranger or man and is not allowed to show her face to the public..."
我无奈的说：ok! if it is her religion and we should respect it and leave her alone. Otherwise I would like to take a picture of her.. (我们后来有拍照，只是我答应她，不会把照片公开）
这时她用本地方言跟矣矣说：I would like to talk to her and would you tell her to go to the public toilet with me .
矣矣翻译她的话，（我们是座在洗手间3尺的范围外)，我就摸不着脑袋发生甚么事！进了洗手间。
她自我介绍：I am 华花 from Iran and I am an English teacher here. I am on my way to visit my parent and I just got married for above 5 months. I heard your conversation with the other gentleman and nice to meet you .....
原来她一直在听我跟矣矣交谈，她把黑纱掀起 ，让我看到一个年轻的女子，带着忧伤的眼神，既埋怨又悲哀！
我告诉她：I am a Chinese from Chicago and we are tourist heading to Luxor tonight. 由於是公众地方， 我害怕这样会增加她的麻烦， 我要求她把面纱盖上，谈了一会便离开， 回到座位去！
矣矣后来要出去拿票子；但华花示意要和我交谈， 她跟矣矣说：I would like to know what is inside her head"。（我是后来离开后车室才知道她这样跟矣矣说的）
矣矣把没坐位让给她。她跟我说; I married for 5 months and I had asked for divorce of 3 times. I am very unhappy and I cried fiercely and blamed my husband for it.
我说：marriage takes time for adjustment and first few years are the critical testing period. Man and woman are having different personality structure. There is no other person who would have same personality even if they are raised in the same family. You blame your husband because he did not meet your expectation or did not have your similarities. It is not his fault but your reluctance to accept his difference.
华花说" What should I do and how I improve our relationship?"
我说" being a wife should be a person who can find the weakness and potential of your husband.If he is weak in certain aspects, you should assist him with all your effort. If he is good at certain things, let him do it for you and build up his skills. Marriage is another form of partnership where complementary understanding would make a perfect match..当我还在说话的时候， 她拿出手机把我的话录下来；她很安静的听我说； 但矣矣突然回来把他的声音录进去。 我要求华花把那段录音洗掉； 她又重新再录。。
