這個周末的《紐約時報》一個專欄登了一篇關於美國當今高中大學校園流行“一夜情”的文章，題為\"The Demise of Dating\" 大意就是正兒八經的談戀愛已經過時了，現在的青少年流行\"Hook-up\".作者為Hook-up下的定義就是\"a casual sexual encounter with no expectation of future emotional commitment\",就是和認識的朋友同學的一夜情.

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/13/opinion/13blow.html?ex=1245128400&en=9fe7c400fc3d4177&ei=5087&WT.mc_id=NYT-E-I-NYT-E-AT-1217-L1

這又讓我想起了我又看過的一本書（唉，again,我就是愛看這些亂七八糟的書,尤其我是１.已婚，２.沒孩子），叫\"Sex and the Soul: Juggling Sexuality, Spirituality, Romance, and Religion on America\'s College Campuses \".中文要是翻譯就是\"性與靈魂：美國校園中性慾，信仰，浪漫，與宗教的平衡\"（翻譯的不好，歡迎砸磚）。作者Donna Freitas是波士頓大學的宗教學教授。她的博客地址：http://www.donnafreitas.blogspot.com/ 可能是因為她是大學教授的緣故吧，這本書的結構就象研究生的畢業論文一樣，非常正規，長長的Reference list就不用說了，還列出了她的research method, statistical finding等等。讀起來挺有意思 - 時時回憶起當年寫論文的艱辛。為人父母的不妨讀一讀，尤其是孩子已經是青少年了，至少可以與孩子有一些共同語言。預先警告：讀完了之後會很擔心的。唉，可憐天下父母心啊！

大意如下：

From Publishers Weekly
Boston University professor Freitas (also an occasional contributor to PW) explores college students\' spiritual and sexual lives in this fascinating, disturbing book. With the exception of evangelical collegians, who are still gunning for marriage and trying to remain chaste until then, almost all of the young people Freitas interviewed were engaged in hookup culture, often exploring their sexuality with near strangers in the hopes of eventually finding someone to date. And with the exception of evangelical students, who allow their religious views to permeate all life choices, including sexual boundaries, most college students don\'t see much connection between their sexual behavior—which, in candid interviews, they often regret—and their spirituality, which is important to them. Freitas\'s tone is engaging and her writing persuasive. Of particular interest is her gender analysis of evangelical purity concepts, which expect young women to be chaste but passive as they wait for Prince Charming. Even more disturbing, the theme parties prevalent in hypersexualized hookup culture (in which young women may dress up as whores, maids or schoolgirls while their male counterparts are powerful CEOs, millionaires or professors) also place all the power in the hands of men. Freitas\'s work chronicles a poignant spiritual loss that students themselves articulate and mourn. (Apr.)