美國人的情與愛1:請不要死乞白捏的愛

最痛苦的愛情不過於你愛一個不愛你的人，更不堪的是他（她）還愛着別人！我們唯一能做的就是承認在這個世界上，情感是不受個人意志控制的，不能強求的！我們必須面對這個現實。

我們要傾聽自己內在的聲音——我值得被愛，要記住：不管你怎麼努力，有些人永遠不可能愛上你。

傷痛總有一天會消失，同時你的心會打開一扇窗戶給真心愛你的人，他（她）愛你遠遠大過你的前任，給你夢想的一切情義。

但是首先我們要放棄對你等待的那個人的任何祈望：他（她）永遠不會愛你如你所願，不會在某一天醒來時領悟到她他一直愛着你，不會，假的。

放棄希望是很難的，但是對我們繼續人生很重要。

我們無權抱怨別人傷害你的感情，因為是你縱容的；我們無權抱怨別人虐待你，因為是你往他她身邊跑；我們無權抱怨浪費了時間，因為你老在他們身邊打圈圈。

（原文是英文，楚女看了很喜歡，翻譯了一下和大家分享，其實友誼也是同理。）

鏈接：·我成了第一位往返阿拉斯加冰川的女船長（亞洲）

Stop chasing and begging for love

Loving someone who doesn’t love us back, or even worse, someone who loves someone else, is the most painful thing in the world. But the most important thing we can do for ourselves is accept that certain things are beyond our control and take responsibility for the things that are.

We need to listen to that inner voice that tells us we deserve to be loved. And we need to accept that some people will never love us, no matter what we do.

The grief and the pain will eventually pass. And this will open the door for us to find someone else who will truly love us and give us everything we wanted with our ex.

But first we have to give up hope. It will never be the way we want it to be. That person you’re waiting on won’t wake up one day and realize they loved you all along.

Giving up hope is the hardest part of moving on, but it’s the most important.

We can’t complain about someone hurting our feelings if we keep letting them. We can’t complain about someone mistreating us if we keep coming back. And we can’t complain about wasted time if we keep walking in circles.