回国感言——所谓亲戚，所谓亲戚的亲情
作者：nierdaye 于 2012-11-2 19:01
父亲子上学离家之后，有空总是要回老家的。后来我在北京上学，寒暑假从西安回校什么的，也是经常中间下车去老家看看。往年回国如有可能、或者适应父亲的要求总是要回老家的。
这次回国，一家大小，吃团圆饭的时候，我顺口说了句，回头去老家住几天，爸爸应了一句“去看看也好”，结果妈妈勃然大怒把我都吓坏了。多少年的事情和盘托出。爸爸开始还争辩几句，后来就无话可说，最后都快哭了。妈妈开始时就算是痛骂，后来难过得话都说不出来，一边哭一边手发抖。
父亲不少兄弟姐妹，自己生活并不宽裕，仍然想办法接济。早年，兄弟姐妹但凡开口，不管粮票补票肉票还是人民币，都尽量给。特别是两票，地方粮票换全国粮票还要损失些，但是也都尽力了。后来家庭条件好了，父亲每次回去，都还觉得老家包括农村亲戚生活困苦，都是尽量倾囊相助。即使退休了也是如此。后来有些事情就不像话了，而且太多了。我就说说最不像话的：
1：父亲的弟弟查出了糖尿病，我婶婶打电话，直接就说药贵，吃不起，没有要钱。父亲母亲去了老家给钱，怕给他们添负担，自己找了附近的招待所住下，打了电话通知一下。我叔叔婶婶就来了，穿的衣服那叫一个破旧不堪，全是补丁，父母看得心里直难受。父亲见状直接就说，这次带的不多，以后生活困难，尽管开口。几个月之后打电话来了，急需钱。爸妈的定期存款没到
期，舍不得那点利息，就打电话到别的亲戚那里看能不能帮忙借些。那个亲戚直接回绝，说他(我叔家)又不是生活困难，他是要买第三套房子。第三套！真的是为了第三套房子找了好几个当地的近亲远亲借钱。
2：父亲腰扭了，一直到治愈3-4个月。凡是父亲以前给过钱给的次数和数目都比较多的，知道这个事情之后中间一个电话都没有。等到父亲腰好了再打回去，那几个亲戚就说：一直忙，没顾得上给你打电话。
事情多了去了，有些事情我也有感觉，但是居然也傻傻的不知道。妈妈心里难过主要是自己尽力帮助人，结果养了白眼狼。为了把肉票油票省出来寄出去，家里省伙食，就用油渣炒菜。每次锅底，都要用馒头擦干净吃掉。结果人家都比我们有钱了有房了，还要从父母这里弄钱。爸爸心里难过，因为那都是他的亲兄弟姐妹，小的时候历经战乱，吃不饱肚子，逃难的时候还互相照顾。如今衣食无忧了，却搞成这个样子。
现在这个世道，真不知道怎么了。
不少要别人资助的人，其实本身并不见得贫穷，
装穷只是骗钱的一种手段，而真正的穷人往往不
会叫穷的，更不会随便伸手向亲友要钱。 装穷骗
钱这种现象不仅存在于农村，城市里也很普遍。
多半为兄弟向姐妹骗钱，还有父母骗女儿的钱给
儿子，普遍得很。
人跟人有很大的区别，有些人一直帮人，有些人
一直占便宜还恨不得你把自己都给了她还在你面前
装13，骂人，我深有同感。
Q:什么是装13？装13是什么意思？
“装13”好像最近在网上成了一个越来越热的话题。什么是
装13？13=时尚？从发音来说，“13”是很接近“时尚”的。但是
13当然不等于时尚，因此所谓13就是假的时尚，更具体地来说
“装13”也就是“假装的时尚达人”。不过，还有一个不雅的解读，
就是把B这个字母拆开就变成13啦，因此“装13”也就变成脏话词儿
的文雅说法了，这足以说明“装13”也是一种被人嘲笑和辱骂的一种说法。
因为钱没有借到，到处给老家的亲戚说我爸爸忘本。
真的是百口莫辩。父亲70多了，碰上这个事情，真的
是很憋屈。
即使是亲戚，没事千万别支援。多少年，你给钱，
有一年不给，结果就不是人了。
亲戚之间的借，说不清楚。
梅河放牛 2012-11-6 23:17
深有同感。千万要扛住啊。国内亲戚们
已没有任何廉耻和亲情。只要钱。
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莎士比亚竟靠做奸商致富 饥荒时囤积居奇
2013-03-31 16:27:23 太阳报
英国大文豪莎士比亚凭多部戏剧着作及十四行诗流芳百世，一项最新研究指，莎翁实为剥削无助穷人的大奸商。专家指他在饥荒时期凭囤积居奇致富，曾因逃税几乎遭受牢狱之灾。莎翁最后更因而成为大地主，工作二十四年便安然退休。
英国亚伯里斯威斯大学的研究团队翻查法院和税务纪录，发现莎士比亚因非法囤积食物而成为法庭常客，及曾因逃税而几近下狱。研究指他于欧洲当时的饥荒期间，囤积大量谷物，推高食物价格后待价而沽，再以这些不义之财购入大量耕地。
莎士比亚退休之后，并未停止写作。研究员阿彻指，莎翁在剥削基层的同时，却以他们的困境为题材，写下如《科利奥兰纳斯》（Coriolanus）等剧目。
阿彻表示，由于莎翁在世的年代并没有版权，他无法凭他的文学作品保障自己和家人的生计，致使他逃税、非法囤积食物，及从事放贷业务。
Study shows Shakespeare as ruthless businessman
Monday, April 1, 2013
LONDON -- Hoarder, moneylender, tax dodger — it's not how we usually think of William Shakespeare.
But we should, according to a group of academics who say the Bard was a ruthless businessman who grew wealthy dealing in grain during a time of famine.
Researchers from Aberystwyth University in Wales argue that we can't fully understand Shakespeare unless we study his often-overlooked business savvy.
"Shakespeare the grain-hoarder has been redacted from history so that Shakespeare the creative genius could be born," the researchers say in a paper due to be delivered at the Hay literary festival in Wales in May.
Jayne Archer, a lecturer in medieval and Renaissance literature at Aberystwyth, said that oversight is the product of "a willful ignorance on behalf of critics and scholars who I think — perhaps through snobbery — cannot countenance the idea of a creative genius also being motivated by self-interest."
Archer and her colleagues Howard Thomas and Richard Marggraf Turley combed through historical archives to uncover details of the playwright's parallel life as a grain merchant and property owner in the town of Stratford-upon-Avon whose practices sometimes brought him into conflict with the law.
"Over a 15-year period he purchased and stored grain, malt and barley for resale at inflated prices to his neighbors and local tradesmen," they wrote, adding that Shakespeare "pursued those who could not (or would not) pay him in full for these staples and used the profits to further his own money-lending activities."
He was pursued by the authorities for tax evasion, and in 1598 was prosecuted for hoarding grain during a time of shortage.
The charge sheet against Shakespeare was not entirely unknown, though it may come as shock to some literature lovers. But the authors argue that modern readers and scholars are out of touch with the harsh realities the writer and his contemporaries faced.
He lived and wrote in the late 16th and early 17th centuries, during a period known as the "Little Ice Age," when unusual cold and heavy rain caused poor harvests and food shortages.
"I think now we have a rather rarefied idea of writers and artists as people who are disconnected from the everyday concerns of their contemporaries," Archer said. "But for most writers for most of history, hunger has been a major concern — and it has been as creatively energizing as any other force."
She argues that knowledge of the era's food insecurity can cast new light on Shakespeare's plays, including "Coriolanus," which is set in an ancient Rome wracked by famine. The food protests in the play can be seen to echo the real-life 1607 uprising of peasants in the English Midlands, where Shakespeare lived.
Shakespeare scholar Jonathan Bate told the Sunday Times newspaper that Archer and her colleagues had done valuable work, saying their research had "given new force to an old argument about the contemporaneity of the protests over grain-hoarding in 'Coriolanus.'"
Archer said famine also informs "King Lear," in which an aging monarch's unjust distribution of his land among his three daughters sparks war.
"In the play there is a very subtle depiction of how dividing up land also involves impacts on the distribution of food," Archer said.
Archer said the idea of Shakespeare as a hardheaded businessman may not fit with romantic notions of the sensitive artist, but we shouldn't judge him too harshly. Hoarding grain was his way of ensuring that his family and neighbors would not go hungry if a harvest failed.
"Remembering Shakespeare as a man of hunger makes him much more human, much more understandable, much more complex," she said.
"He would not have thought of himself first and foremost as a writer. Possibly as an actor — but first and foremost as a good father, a good husband and a good citizen to the people of Stratford."
She said the playwright's funeral monument in Stratford's Holy Trinity Church reflected this. The original monument erected after his death in 1616 showed Shakespeare holding a sack of grain. In the 18th century, it was replaced with a more "writerly" memorial depicting Shakespeare with a tasseled cushion and a quill pen. (AP)
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