老公刚刚去美国，加入他一直仰慕的微软。非常为他自豪。之前他一直想去中国发展，我极力反对。今天聊天，又旧话重提。以下是我们的对话。我深深地感到，我和他之间，在价值观之间还是有很大的差异，需要很多的沟通。
Hubby says:still not sleep?
Me says:just had a conference call with US office, Atlanta
Hubby says:ok. so can you transfer to US?
Hubby says:atlanta is a small city; not a good place actually
Me says:I don know
Me says:never mention to my boss yet
Me says:just they need me to do a presentation to a Chinese prospect
Hubby says:never mind, just say so
Hubby says:for taiwan or mainland?
Me says: Mainland
Me says:Taiwanese high level management normally could speak good English
Hubby says:ok, that is good; so will you travel back to china?
Me says:don know yet
Me says:this one will be thru the internet
Me says:don want long term travel
Hubby says:ok
Hubby says:if your company opens a branch in china and offers you 500K/y, i think we can consider going back to china.
Me says:no way. I will not go back to China. I have told you many times
Hubby says:i think if you have 500k/y in china, you will have a very good life.
Hubby says:not like in US, even you can get 200K/y, it is also no much difference.
Me says:what are you looking for in life?
Me says:when you have a lot of money, you will not be satisfied with family life
Hubby says:i don\'t know. when i see people earn much money in US, but still live in other\'s house. and don\'t want to spend more when they go to the resturant; what do you think?
Me says:that\'s fine. I don want to be China, stay in big house, with a lot of money, while no happiness in family
Me says: husband does not want to come back home, no time to spend with kids, husband and wife no care for each other , just money, money, a lot of money for kids, but no time & love for them
Me says:对小孩来说，父母的关爱，切切实实的花时间同他们相处，比多少钱都重要
Me says:除非是穷的生存不下去
Me says:对于夫妻之间也是如此
Me says:很多印度马来人，家庭多么穷困，可是他们的孩子还是很快乐,个性很好
Me says:我们不管怎么也不会很穷
Me says:其实，物质享受来说，总是很空虚的
Me says:只是在缺乏时，才觉得很享受
Me says:太多了，都没有意思
Me says:只有真正困了，睡觉才香
Me says:饿了，吃饭才香
Me says:如果成天让你睡觉，有吃不完的好东西，很快就会失去兴趣
Me says:虽然我现在还没有很多钱，但是我觉得道理还是差不多
Me says:钱少，才觉得钱可贵，可以换来很多东西，一旦多了，这些用钱换来的东西也没有意思了
Me says:你可以说我阿Q吧，总之，我不愿意自己做钱的奴隶
Me says:我想到美国去见识见识，以后有机会可以去中国看看，但是，我真的不喜欢现在中国的大环境
Me says:我讨厌做一个虚伪的人
Me says:讨厌做一个需要用很多心计的人
Me says:如果要我去中国，我真不如在新加坡
Me says:起码我现在还挺开心的
Me says:比如，我们现在不是很富，所以不能经常去看你，可是，正因为如此，我们偶尔的见面，才显得非常宝贵，甜蜜,会留下深深的印象
Me says:这，绝对比能够轻易见面的感觉好得多
Me says:好不容易买了自己的房子，才会有深深的自豪感
Me says:偶尔去豪华餐厅光顾一下，才会觉得非常享受
Me says:如果豪华餐厅变成了你的食堂，那你对它的感觉也就同当初的学校食堂差不多
Me says:可能只是偶尔外面的人让你感受一下那种虚荣心的满足，如此而已
钱太多了，就像生活的迷雾，容易让人迷失方向，反而不能静下心来寻求生命的本质。虽然钱不可缺少，但是差不多够用就行了，我们踏踏实实，努力工作挣钱，才能在挣钱的同时体会生活的真谛，否则，钱就只是钱而已，甚至可能变成罪恶的根源。
在我具备足够的智慧之前，我不希望自己太富。钱和生活的关系，就像其他事情，例如工作，业余活动与生活的关系类似。如果是为了这种事物本身，而不是因为其带来的精神的愉悦，人格的成长，那么最终都会迷失方向。
如果登山是为了看风景，那么沿途能够有心情欣赏风景，领会登临一刻的喜悦，如果只是为了登山而登山，那么便无法领会其过程的愉悦，登上山之后只是如释重负，好像完成任务一样，或者借助外力达到山顶，那，就更没有意思了。
人生不是任务，也不是为了死亡，而是为了经历。因此，应该能够享受其过程，踏踏实实的生活。 |
