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作者：peacejoy |
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留言时间：2013-07-10 05:31:42 |
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Thank you very much for your reply. It was a lesson for me. I appreciate your words especially "respect the differences". |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-07-09 16:53:40 |
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peacejoy:
网络世界的美妙之处就是它提供了最大的随意性。不要太在意没有keep promise。 我就是完全靠心情写博文。想写了，自己想不写都不行。不想写没有冲动写或者是太忙没有时间写，就不要写. 现实世界的事还是应该放在第一位。
关于女儿。讲讲我儿子的故事.我和妹妹都在美国，都是只有一个儿子，可妹妹的儿子比我儿子学习好很多。他们两从小一起长大。我们以前也常常比着妹妹的儿子批评儿子，可是以后发现，不能这样，这对儿子不公平，而且也不利于他的心灵成长。每个人都是不一样的，从性格，秉性，到聪明程度，专长都不一样。要尊重这种不同。中国文化有个陋习，就是互相攀比儿女，我不喜欢。让孩子随着他们的天性本性去发展吧。我们能做的就是给他们提供条件机会，帮助他们找到适合自己的人生道路。 |
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作者：peacejoy |
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留言时间：2013-07-06 06:28:49 |
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Hi 马黑, sorry just sent this piece now, feeling so bad myself for not delivering the promise to write about my girl. My daughter is in her teenage therefore many frustrations. And my husband’s niece and my mum are with us recently while unfortunately exists a misunderstanding between them, which gives me a real pain. Hope to find a good excuse for the above mentioned.
Well, come back. Confessed and feeling very shame I am now, that I had been a sort of disappointing with my daughter regarding her school academic results especially in math. Sometimes I just could not understand why it’s difficult for her. Around us there are so many Chinese kids who have talent in music, academies especially in math and science.
Naturally, we are not fond of private coaching. We think if our daughter is not in the top position by her own, she must have something else great that we may not know. We played with her in sports, music, paid our contribution to community and charity. Under roof (cooking) and in yard, our daughter also has been learning to become a great hand. It is our wish that she will grow up as a normal lady as possible who loves life and has a life. However, we felt a heavy pressure and embarrassed when having a chat with other parents and hearing much about their kids. This situation lasted for many years until recently.
Actually my daughter is very top in sports (tracks, field and swimming), teamwork, English relevant subjects (we encourage her broader range of readings), earning herself the half scholarship since Year 8 in a private school. She is turning fifteen soon this year, and also a good baker and cook. BTW she commits herself one dinner and one breakfast weekly, daily duty on dish washing. I could not expect more could I?
I realized myself being selfish in the shame of face loss rather than really putting her in the first priority and better good in faith. I am reminding myself as long as my daughter is trying her best, honest, willing to serve communities, help those who are in need, I should be happy and grateful for such a bless from the heaven.
My apology for using your blog here please. Again, you have a wonderful son. All the best for you and your family. |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-21 09:02:22 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-21 09:01:51 |
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徽人：
外出陪小妹一行游玩，没有及时回复，对不住。是的，水果是我家种的。我家一共种了7棵果树，这是枇杷树。 |
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作者：peacejoy |
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留言时间：2013-06-06 06:51:37 |
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Moved by his heart and service. |
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作者：徽人 |
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留言时间：2013-06-03 08:04:51 |
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黑兄不用谦虚，儿子还是受你的影响，不错！
一直有个问题想问：那几只水果是你们家院子里的吗？羡慕！ |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 22:56:34 |
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aspentech：
谢谢来访！对不起了，我把你的帖子删了，因为你攻击了别的与此文无关的人，如果不删，势必会在我的场子里引起一场无意义的网争，希望理解！ |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 22:48:20 |
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女王:
哈哈，你真搞笑，那是个老外啊，我嫂可都是中国人样子啊。儿子照的相，他自然是不在相片中。 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 22:45:50 |
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阿妞回来了，都在跟读你的博文，尽管没有留言。问好！谢谢给儿子的美言。 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 22:43:55 |
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乡华：
我也有同感，美国有不少人做善事真是没有任何功利心地去做，常年地做，是发自内心或者是出于宗教信仰。美国听到见到过的好人好事很多，以后有机会要写写。 |
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作者：queen |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 21:04:43 |
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作者：阿妞不牛 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 19:41:27 |
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作者：乡华 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 18:16:08 |
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钦佩志愿者们的献身精神！美国没有宣传过雷锋，但是还是不乏“好人好事”，且少了不少的功利味道。 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 17:59:08 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 17:58:47 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 17:58:12 |
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作者：水晶 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 13:31:36 |
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作者：若慧 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 10:50:22 |
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作者：queen |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 10:40:14 |
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儿子，好样的。有良心、有道德、有理想、有作为……
代我向他和他的朋友问候，并致礼！
处处小心，多多保重！ |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 10:15:53 |
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谢谢安博美言。儿子从小就不太服管。我们基本上是给他最大自由，先顺着他，然后找机会按照我们的想法去影响他。不过收效不大，他都是按照自己的想法做事。不过可以肯定，他是不会从政的。 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 10:11:28 |
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吴言：
过奖了，我们真没有怎么管过他，一个原因是他小时候我们都很艰苦，顾不上他，而二来他性格比较倔强。他受朋友的影响很大。 |
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作者：马黑 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 09:58:05 |
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山泉水：
他是从德州达拉斯姑姑家一早走掉的，姑姑也不知道他干吗去啦，我们打电话他也没有接，我们还以为是不是找到了新的女朋友去会女朋友了。结果才知道是去救灾做善事了，我们对他自觉去做这样有意义的事也很高兴。 |
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作者：安博 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 05:22:45 |
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Gosh, 这两年的龙卷风有点太邪门了，早而频，不知是否与全球暖化有关。
你儿子好样的，看到他们这一代的参与精神真的很欣慰，有你老马家的基因，也有这里环境的鼓励，祝你儿子再接再励，以后参与选举，代表我们的利益。 |
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作者：吴言 |
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留言时间：2013-06-02 03:00:14 |
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环境“风调雨顺”，父母教育有方，子女健康成长，顶！ |
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作者：山泉水 |
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留言时间：2013-06-01 23:54:35 |
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马黑，你儿子的行为值得赞赏！你有一个有公德心的好儿子！这个世界要是有爱心的人多一点，世界就美丽了。 |
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