Hi 马黑, sorry just sent this piece now, feeling so bad myself for not delivering the promise to write about my girl. My daughter is in her teenage therefore many frustrations. And my husband’s niece and my mum are with us recently while unfortunately exists a misunderstanding between them, which gives me a real pain. Hope to find a good excuse for the above mentioned. Well, come back. Confessed and feeling very shame I am now, that I had been a sort of disappointing with my daughter regarding her school academic results especially in math. Sometimes I just could not understand why it’s difficult for her. Around us there are so many Chinese kids who have talent in music, academies especially in math and science. Naturally, we are not fond of private coaching. We think if our daughter is not in the top position by her own, she must have something else great that we may not know. We played with her in sports, music, paid our contribution to community and charity. Under roof (cooking) and in yard, our daughter also has been learning to become a great hand. It is our wish that she will grow up as a normal lady as possible who loves life and has a life. However, we felt a heavy pressure and embarrassed when having a chat with other parents and hearing much about their kids. This situation lasted for many years until recently. Actually my daughter is very top in sports (tracks, field and swimming), teamwork, English relevant subjects (we encourage her broader range of readings), earning herself the half scholarship since Year 8 in a private school. She is turning fifteen soon this year, and also a good baker and cook. BTW she commits herself one dinner and one breakfast weekly, daily duty on dish washing. I could not expect more could I? I realized myself being selfish in the shame of face loss rather than really putting her in the first priority and better good in faith. I am reminding myself as long as my daughter is trying her best, honest, willing to serve communities, help those who are in need, I should be happy and grateful for such a bless from the heaven. My apology for using your blog here please. Again, you have a wonderful son. All the best for you and your family.